This picture makes me cry!

This picture makes me cry!
Thought it was time to change my picture

Monday, July 14, 2008

Not sure how to deal with this....opinions please

So I have received a few rude comments from those that I work with....my favorite is probably, "your hips are getting wide" or the "are you having twins??" comments. I'm not kidding when i say that I get at least 2 comments a day - 2 RUDE comments a day. Now I realize that I have been at my job for almost 9 years and so everyone and their mom knows that I'm pregnant. Most people also know that I used to weigh 385 pounds and lost weight but does that give them the right to make random, rude comments?? I love being pregnant (for the most part) and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world but i would be lying if I said that I didn't have a meltdown at the doc's office on Friday when I stepped on the scale. Weight gain is rough - I know it's necessary but it doesn't change the games that it plays with my head. That being said - I have come up with a few responses to the rude comments.....please leave a comment if you can think of any other good zingers to throw back at these people.

At least I’m pregnant – what’s your excuse?

I’m having a big bad boy who will come kick your ass when he’s older!

As a matter of fact, I’m having triplets so I look pretty damn good then!

I’m putting my baby up for adoption and would rather not discuss my current state (that’ll make ‘em feel bad!)

Now I want to say THANK YOU for all your comments - they made me cry on a really rough day. Like I said - Friday was not a good day. First I had to stand on the scale and see that I had gained 13 pounds in 4 weeks - the doc swears that there is no way?? I honestly haven't changed my eating from the last appointment but I haven't been exercising as much so maybe that is it?? I've also been swelling really badly so I'm thinking some of it might be water?? So yeah, I freaked out and cried and cried and cried. My poor hubby.......then the doc came in and they had a really hard time finding the heartbeat.....the longest 5 minutes of my life. That helped put the weight gain in perspective but after that appointment I was pretty wiped out. Your comments really helped me smile and made me feel so much better about myself so THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!

(((HUGS)))

11 comments:

Christy said...

Miss Manners would say it is never okay to be rude even when others clearly are. Not that I always abide by that :-)
But I have found that saying things like "Really? Thank you!" with a smile stop most people in their tracks. I don't know if it makes them aware of their rudeness or just think that you're crazy. But it works.

noelle said...

You could just slap them right across the face! That totally sucks, girl. I hate when people are rude like that. I don't know what to say other than, "hmmm, I'll have to talk to my OB about that."

as for the weight, swelling can cause a lot of that, remember? If your doc isn't freaking out then don't you either. I always gained a TON of weight in my 7th month (like 15 pounds), but then I wouldn't gain hardly anything for the rest of the pg. It will all work out in the end.

And you really do just have a tiny little baby bump if you ask me!

goodbyetoallfat said...

I liked your first two comments -- they seem to be very simple and effective:

**I'm preggers, what's your excuse?

**I'm having a big bad boy ....

Wouldn't go for the triplets excuse, as some catty person might ask you later why you have only had one baby.

I do think, though, there is a horrible possibility that some people feel more entitled to make comments to an "ex" fat person who has lost weight, possibly comments they would not think of making so quickly to a slim woman who became pregnant.

Amanda said...

I love the I'm pregnant excuse...I said that a lot this last time. I get big when I'm pg and carry my weight all out in front, so people tend to make comments about how big I am. I KNEW last time I was big and that it was baby not me b/c I gained less than 40# and baby measure big pretty much from the get go.

Tell them thanks for noticing but your OB is not concerned and neither are you. All you care about is a healthy baby. :)

Colette said...

Steph...My response would definately go like this:

"Well I might be FAT, but your UGLY and I can always LOSE weight!"

Then give them one of those BIG SHIT EATING GRINS!! :)
hahahaha

Colette said...

PS: I posted that WW Core Cornbread recipe for you on my blog!

Love ya,
Colette :)

Kate said...

I would just flat out tell them to shove it up their asses personally! What right do they have! Your an adorable pregnant barbie!

Superjayman's Battle of the Bulge said...

You don't look big at all.....tell them that all your blog readers say to "shove it"!!!!


Of all the nerve....enjoy your pregnancy!

Candace MacPherson said...

You look adorable Steph. Don't let it get to you. I carried out front (like Amanda) and got lots of comments, like "When are you due? You look ready to pop now" (at 6 months in), and "Are you STILL pregnant. You've been big for SO long." (around 7 months). Basically - and you'll have to trust me - none of this will matter the MOMENT you hold your baby. Crying and touching that little one from shear joy (and sleep deprivation) makes it all melt away.
Love ya.

Scale Junkie said...

I would just look at them and say "why on earth would you say such a thing?" and walk away shaking your head and leave them to realize what a rude ass they've been.

I think you're gorgeous, screw what they think!!!

anna said...

ooooh man! and men are the worste at this one! i used to get stopped all the time..."baby coming soon?" i was 6 months. ugh! dang girl, just know that it happens to all of us. and don't worry about the weight gain. it probably is water and it will just fall off when you are done. i gained 50 pounds with my son and lost 30 pounds in 10 days after delivery...THAT WAS WATER!

i know it's hard to enjoy being pregnant when you have to gain weight to do it. i was overweight most of my life and spent so much effort getting into the "normal-skinny" range that it feels like an abandonment of all that i have worked for. HOWEVER, THEY ARE SO WORTH IT!

keep it up sister, i'll be watching you!